You’ve spent countless days, months, maybe even years planning your dream wedding. The countdown is on & then a worldwide pandemic hits. Your life has been turned upside down & all of that excitement has now transformed into stress & overwhelm as you start thinking through all of the work that needs to be done to postpone. While I realize that it doesn’t change the situation, I just want you to know that you’re not alone. My fiance Michael & I went from 2 weeks out to 53 weeks out. Our March 28th, 2020 wedding has now been postponed to March 22, 2021. For all of you who have had to postpone your wedding, I feel your pain.
I know we all process things differently, but here are a few tips that have proven useful for me. Take them or leave them & if there is anything I can do to support you in the meantime, please don’t hesitate to reach out.
1. Set a new date ASAP. The unknown is always the worst part which is one of the reasons I feel like all of us are struggling so much during this time. So the sooner you can set your new wedding date, the better. That way you know what to plan for & have a new wedding date to look forward to. It will help you accept these unfortunate circumstances by allowing you to move forward rather than feeling stuck in unknown limbo.
2. Hire an amazing wedding coordinator if you didn’t already. Our wedding was entirely transferred to a new date with all the same vendors in a matter of 2 days.
3. Invites – because we all know that we spent plenty of money on our original invites, consider advising your guests via text, email, evite, etc. & just get one invitation reprinted with the correct date for your photos.
4. Do something meaningful on your “would have been wedding day”. We’re all feeling very isolated right now, so it’s important to still feel loved & surrounded. Even though it wasn’t your actual wedding day, it can still be a meaningful milestone & a day to remember.
5. Feel all the feels as they come. Once we had rescheduled our wedding I didn’t feel very emotional. I had accepted the situation & thought I had moved on. Flash forward to our “would have been” wedding weekend & there were WAY more tears than I expected. So give yourself grace. There’s a lot going on in the world right now & emotions are to be expected … now add to that the fact that your wedding has been postponed & cue the tears. Grieve the loss, feel the disappointment & when you’re ready, embrace the anticipation of your new wedding date.
So today let’s all begin our new wedding countdown. Let’s re-set our anticipation meters & get excited all over again for our new wedding dates. Covid19 isn’t keeping any of us from getting married, it’s just giving us a little extra prep time & a lot of extra quarantine time with our future spouses.
Life’s unpredictable. Plans change. There are plenty of things that are out of our control. So let’s focus on the things we do have control of – like investing in the ones we love, taking this time to evaluate our priorities & restructure as needed, choosing to grow in the midst of what may feel like a stagnant situation.
We’ve got this!